I came to you because I’d become scared of the world around me.
Working from home, I’d started to isolate myself, closing off from friends and family. I was crippled by OCD and an overwhelming fear of vomiting that had me going to new and increasingly extreme lengths to ‘protect myself.’
Sometimes I would go a week at a time without leaving the house. I would wash myself compulsively because I never felt clean. I never felt at ease. Simple, everyday decisions reduced me to tears, or led to a panic attack, and I had moments so low that I simply couldn’t see how I’d ever be happy again.
My family was going through a difficult time, and I knew things would get much worse before they got better. For the first time in my life I was faced with a loss I didn’t know how to prepare myself for. Things are still hard, but they are getting better each day.
Issues from my past were resurfacing, and my relationships with those close to me were suffering. I remember confessing to you that I was afraid I was ‘unfixable.’ I couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.
I used to be afraid of everything, and I hated how weak that made me feel.
Once spontaneous, adventurous and full of energy, I was now a shell of my former self. Thanks to you I know now that I’m not weak. Thanks to you I’m starting to feel positive about my future again.
CBT trains you to approach things differently and become your own counsellor, but you’ve taught me so much more than that. I’ve learned to value and look after myself, and make my needs known to others. You’ve given me a voice again.
You’ve made me braver than I ever thought possible, and given me the courage to tackle things I never thought I could. You’ve given me the insight to understand myself, question my thought processes, and challenge my own negative thoughts. I still have my problems, but you’ve equipped me with the tools to tackle them better myself. I’m a million miles away from the person I was eight months ago.
Before, I couldn’t wait to see you because I desperately needed an outlet.
I needed to vent, I needed you to help me organise my muddled thoughts. I needed to cry freely, without judgement.
Now I can’t wait to see you because I want to tell you about a fear I conquered, or a new personal milestone I’ve achieved. No matter how tiny, you are always proud of me.
I couldn’t stop smiling during my last session because I started to feel like the pieces of my life are finally coming together. What we have worked through together has brought me a sense of direction again. It’s brought me closure, vindication. It’s shown me how to feel joy again.
I’ve never been suicidal, but there have been times when I’ve wished I could simply stop existing, just for a little while. Because no matter how much I shut myself away, turned off my phone, or ignored others, there would always come a point where I’d have to face it all again. I switched wildly between shaking with nervous energy and feeling so drained I couldn’t move. I didn’t care about sleeping, eating, or looking after myself. Nothing excited me anymore; I felt numb. That was the worst part; in the moments I didn’t feel overwhelmed by fear or sadness, I longed to feel something but couldn’t.
But there was a moment when it was like you helped me flick a switch.
Suddenly I felt alive again. Suddenly I felt fired up. I had goals, things to look forward to. I left that session full of hope and on my way home stopped to look out at the sea. I felt an incredible sense of calm and clarity.
I don’t quite know how you do it, but you help me make sense of things. Sometimes the answer might be so obvious I can’t believe I didn’t see it myself. You help me realise that my needs and feelings are valid. You give me the confidence to ask for what I want, and the strength to make things happen for myself.
There’s so much more I want to say, but no words can adequately sum up just how much you mean to me, or the impact you’ve had on my life in such a short space of time. You’ve helped me in more ways than I can count.
You’ve helped me to be me again.
We’ve laughed together, cried together, and I will never look at a bag of Mini Cheddars in the same way again. It’s my last session with you soon, and I find it hard to think about my life without you in it. It’s going to be a difficult goodbye, but I finally feel ready for it.
I hope you feel proud of the work you do, because you’re amazing at it. It takes a truly special person to show someone the level of kindness, understanding and compassion that you’ve shown me. I will never stop being thankful for everything you’ve done for me.
I will miss you, but I will never forget what you’ve taught me, or all the incredible things you’ve helped me to achieve.
From the bottom of my heart I thank you.
Talking about depression and anxiety might seem overwhelming, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to someone.
Talk to your friends, GP, partner or family. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
There are many different types of therapy, so it’s worth doing some research to find out what’s right for you. If you’re interested in CBT, visit the BABCP website to learn more, and find an accredited CBT practitioner in your area.